21 Things Learned Before Age 21


I've (Emily, here!) learned a lot in my short 21 years here in the world, and I think it's all pretty great. It's cool to realize that I have this space to share with you my 21 bits of advice for everyone. Enjoy! Xx.

Here's what I've learned so far ...

1. Nobody is going to swoop in and rescue you from your life; only you can do that for yourself.

2. You don’t gain or lose 10 pounds by eating a bowl of ice cream. Grab a spoon & dig in.

3. No one looks at you and says, oh my god if that dimple weren’t there on your right butt cheek, I’d love you so much more. Love yourself the way other people love you: without judgment and criticism.

4. Magic drink and cure-all: spinach and banana smoothie. Perfect post toxin binge, wink wink.

5. Being young isn’t an excuse to be socially inappropriate, but growing up doesn’t give you permission to lose your sense of wonder. 

6. If you don’t love it, don’t do it/ have sex with it/ buy it. 

7. Do no harm, but take no shit. And if you do harm, remember a sincere apology speaks volumes. 

8. Forgiveness takes you further than any resentment ever will. 

9. Celebrate the little things. They are the foundation for your success. 

10. Wear the new shoes, the sexy lingerie, the leather pants; there’s no special occasion like living life to the fullest.

11. Some things are just not about you. Regardless of your inner 4-year-old opinion, the universe does not revolve around you.

12. Friendships are just like any other relationship: they take trust, understanding, communication, and love.

13. Take a day off “just because”. You’ll never know what great ideas come from a little R&R.

14. Stay in touch with the teachers that made you believe in the world again. They will forever encourage and inspire your dreams.

15. Put yourself out there, again and again, regardless of rejection or being shut down. You never know when the other person will blink and think: this one

16. Read your favorite books over and over again — chick lit, comics, biographies, it doesn’t matter as long as you love it. 

17. Don’t be afraid of love. It might not be a forever kind of love, but if it makes your heart sing for a moment, hold on tight with no regrets. Remember your worth does not depend on the opinions of others, but rather the opinion you hold of yourself.

18. There are no rules on heartbreak. Take as much time as you need. 

19. If there's something you’re passionate about, go for it. Don’t wait. You never know how your story will unfold until you leap.

20. Sometimes, all you need is a cup of tea, someone to brush your hair, and a funny movie. 

21. Stop waiting for the shoe to drop and just live your damn life. If something bad happens, it happens, but it’s not because of something you did or didn’t do. You’ll notice when you stop expecting terrible things to happen, they stop happening. 


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Staying on Top of Work | 2015

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Whether you're going back to school, helping your kids catch the bus, or eagerly awaiting the new fashions, fall is right around the corner and with it comes the nostalgia for cooler temps and a drive to hunker down, and get back to work. It's no surprise that I (Emily, here!) have headed back to school for my next semester filled with unfortunate adventures and countless hours of working. Teaching yoga five days a week, owning my own business, and going to school full time has definitely allowed me to fine-tune my ability to stay on top of work, so I thought I'd share my three no-fail tips with you. It's important to stay organized, keep a healthy time mentality, and make time for yourself. Let's get to it ...

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Master list.

This piece of paper or a Word page or a folder in Evernote (more on my favorite apps to use later) has every single to-do item. Crazy right? Nope. It's life changing. Organize them into subheaders - i.e. dreams, home, work, etc - and start adding everything and anything under them. Writing down all of those "oh! I wish/need/could do that" will help with the endless cycle of what you need to get done, what you have gotten done, and what you hope to accomplish. I have a list that's several pages long but includes things I want to do ten years from now (like owning my own home - dream!).

Weekly list.

Your master list has been created. Do not and I repeat, do not, fold up that master list and start each day gawking at how much you want to do and how much you've yet to do. Que the failure. Instead, at the beginning of each week - Sundays work for most people - sit down with your master list and make your weekly to-do list. On this baby, include things like what immediately needs to get done, meals you want to have for the week, any exercise plans, social events, etc. Pull from your master list, but don't expect to get through it all in a week. Try to be realistic with what you can accomplish. If on your master list you have "Write a Book" but you've yet to write a single page, break it up into manageable pieces like, "research publication mediums, write bio, draft outline, etc". Small tasks allow for an undaunted approach to your goals.

Daily list.

This is where you take that weekly list and turn it into your daily task sheet. Take five minutes the night before to plan out your daily list. I use the 5-3-1 formula. Five big ticket tasks, 3 small steps, and one to two personal self-care items.

For example, my daily list two days ago looked like:

+ 5 Big-Ticket Items - draft Yoga for Basketball Philosophy outline, finalize and post Foods I Take to Wake: First Edition, meet with Beth and Mason, go to Class, and start Staying on Top of Work Post.

+ 3 Small Steps: emails - reply to the athletic trainer, email my past econ professor, and send my outline to Dana; purchase my textbook for German; purchase a gift.

+ Personal Self-care: take a Barre3 class and work on wall hanging - art project.

On this list you'll also see my meals for the day - or at least where I'm eating and at what time.

I love the thrill of crossing things out or checking things off, so by the end of the day, my list normally looks like a black hole - paper copy - or all green - online app. Cross it off your weekly list too! Annnnnd if you hit something on your master list, you guessed it, cross it off! You did it! Woohoo!

Every couple of weeks or every month, sit down and review your master list: cross off things you've missed, maybe take off items in which you no longer have interest, or add even more. It's a constant process, but one that keeps your life rooted in action rather than fear.

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50 minutes of work followed by ten minutes of stretching your fingers, shaking your booty, checking out a cool blog, or sipping on some tea. Gauge your time frame of productive ability, and remember that each day is different. Some days, I operate on a 30/15 focus, while other days I can hammer out work at a 55/5 pace. It's amazing how when you listen to your mind's ability to focus, and don't force it to do anything crazy like work for three hours with only a five minute break, you can maximize productivity and cross off everything on your daily list.

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So you've planned your life down to a T, and you've maximized productivity in the blocks you've allotted for yourself. It's time to make time for rest and self-care too. Without it, you get sick, fall back on work, lose your drive, and end up right where you began. Burning the candle on both ends might make a bright and beautiful light, but pretty soon the light fizzles out, and there isn't anything left.

Personal self-care items can be: read a book, call a friend, or take a bubble bath. They are meant as ways of rejuvenating your system.

Still don't think it's important? Imagine if you never rubbed the belly of a service dog or let them take a nap but made them work all of the time. Think they would be the loving, capable, and incredible animals we hear about or see every day? I certainly don't think so. Self-care = most important part.

And remember it's all a process! Some days it works amazingly, and other days you throw your plan to the wind, get under the covers, and watch four seasons of a great show on Netflix. It happens. But now you have the tools to get back on track.

So there you have it! My three, go-to tips for staying on top of work. I'm sure I'll be rereading my own words when I get too stressed to think, but that's life, eh? Just remember:

  1. Write it all down.
  2. Block it out.
  3. Don't forget self-care.

+ Do these seem doable? What are your go-to productivity tips?

 

 

Quick || Five Gratitudes || 11.10.14

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I only have a moment here --

trying not to stress, just sending love and good vibes to the universe.

I love each and everyone one of you.


|| 5 Things I am Grateful for Today ||

The immense love of my Kula -- how blessed I am to have them surrounding me. Officially a Registered Yoga Teacher! Wow!

Free flowing water -- I will never take water so freely given for granted.

Friends who care and make bumping into them all the more fun.

A mom who even when exhausted sends more love and hope than any other person on the planet.

Manifestation -- because I was just wishing for something and a link popped up on my sidebar for my exact wish.


What are you grateful for today? Find at least 5 things! Let me know in the comments below if you'd like : - )

xxoo

[photo by emily friend]